husband supports his mom financially but does not provide for me?
We had a love marriage - dated for 5 and a half years and then married without his parents' consent. It's been close to 3 yrs of our marriage now and during all this time he has been unfailing in his dedication towards his folks. He sends money home each month diligently and even goes to meet his mom each Sunday for lunch. Yet, when it comes to our home finances, I am expected somehow to bear the burden of most of it. He left his job of his own accord (office politics, which he resented) a few months ago and started freelancing. I am a freelancer myself. He is liking the change because of all the flexibility and it's been about 4 months now since he started freelancing. During all this time, he has expected me to support home finances unconditionally. Yet, he continues sending money home because he doesn't want his folks to suspect that he is not in a regular job - his folks would panic if they heard that, since they are not well-versed with the way freelancing works and how it pays. This situation of him wanting me t support the home financially was there even before he started freelancing. Even when he was earning well and in a regular job, while I was freelancing, I would be expected to foot most of the bills. So, if it was only this freelancing phase where I was expected to support him, it would be fine by me. Yet, it has continued for so long that it has become a source of extreme frustration for me. Anyways, what bothers me is that while I continue to take extra initiative to earn extra during freelancing, he does not bother much. In lean periods when there's not much work, he would spend his time surfing the net and listening to music. That really bothers me and whenever I have brought it up, he refuses to communicate. In 3 yrs of marriage, he has never bought me anything special or expensive. We have only gone for vacations twice in all this time! How long am I expected to be the financially supportive wife? When will he start providing for me or when will I start feeling like a loved wife? P.S - I don't want to come across as a 9 yr old kid throwing tantrums but the situation is really frustrating. We have hit a rough patch in the marriage recently because he has way too many flaws - too many negative inner emotions in himself, lack of self esteem etc.He used to take me for granted a lot before and after a lot of discussions, he has realized his mistake. He has promised to make amends now but this situation has been there all along and I am left to provide for the home mostly by myself. He is kind, loving, affectionate and takes good care of me but aren't men of the home expected to bear the majority of the finances? Especially as he expects the woman of the home to do most of the chores? The funny thing is that when we dated, he used to buy me many nice gifts but post marriage, it's like everything has changed. Like I said before, we've only gone on vacation twice in 3 yrs and he's never bought me anything nice/special. Yet, he continues to buy stuff for his folks each yr on festivals and special occasions. He keeps promising he will make amends but I can only remember so many instances when I've been happy in the marriage. It's like something inside me has switched off entirely after all the rough patches we've been through. I have often wondered if he secretly resents me because he had to cut off relations with his folks because of me? Yet, if that was the case he need not have married me in the first place if it was going to turn out this way. I do love him immensely but I shudder to think what would happen if we ever had kids! The situation might become nightmarish! Any advice or suggestions are most welcome, thanks

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